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Maybe humans have always been perfectionists, but perfectionism has no doubt gained momentum in our fast-paced age.

The belief that others are perfect, and so we should be and this is the biggest reasons why so many of us are so miserable 🙆 #.

We think we are the only ones who can’t seem to get their stuff together. Of course, this isn’t true - people do hide the messy parts of their lives because they are trying to appear perfect too 💆!

The truth is, you aren’t perfect, and you never w…

You can’t have self-esteem without being self-aware. If you take a trip and you want a navigation system to guide you, you need to know where you are and where you want to go. The same goes for developing your dignity muscles.

Self-knowledge gives you clarity about your strengths, as well as your weaknesses, your goals, and your challenges. That, in turn, allows you to take charge of your self-worth. No one can do this for you, and it’s not the easy road. However, it’s a much better, healthier wa…

Arguably the hallmark of authenticity is living with ease – you feel content and empowered. You know your true self in all its strengths and weaknesses, and you love yourself just the way you are.

Authenticity is grounded in:
🦋 You gaining a deep self-knowledge.
🦋 Making conscious decisions about what is meaningful for you and what your beliefs and values are.
🦋 Using your beliefs and values to move and act in the world.

Deciding to live a more authentic life means making a conscious decision to deta…

If you feel you’ve never had anyone supportive or positive in your life, finding positive people to spend time with can seem impossible. But it isn’t. If you are truly committed to improving your self-worth, you are going to have to change how much time you spend with toxic friends and family members.

If you continue to spend time with the same people who are always telling you that you aren’t good enough, for whatever reason, you are going to be fighting an uphill battle that is unnecessary.

You …

Backfilling positivity means adding little things to your life that bring you joy. And believe it or not, it’s not all about adding more stuff to your life – it’s also about noticing and appreciating what’s already there.

🌹 By staying in the present.
🌹 Become aware of your anxious, negative, or fearful thoughts and what triggers them. Swap them for positive ones.
🌹 Be grateful for what’s right in front of you, even if it’s something that’s an ordinary part of your life
🌹 Make ordinary things special…

mproving your self-worth will be a process. As with any process, you won’t be able to do things once and then be ready to move onto the next step. You will find there will be a natural cycle in the process. You will need to gain self-awareness, for example, as the first step. But that isn’t a weekend job, and then it’s checked off the list. You will need to continue to stay open to learning about yourself. It’s a discovery process that is amazing!

One reason you probably aren’t aware or familiar …

Building your self-worth by discovering your inner creative. Art, music, and other creative pursuits have long been used in therapeutic settings to help people overcome depression, anxiety, and self-doubt 🎨 🎼 🎵 .

There is increasing research that the very popular trend of adult coloring books 🎨 has a very positive impact on mental health. So even inner critics that whispers that you can’t draw doesn’t have a leg to stand on.

Creativity can be a really helpful way to provide some distraction and ha…

Being kind to yourself and others is a key element of living a happier life 💫 .

It goes hand-in-hand with a commitment to change your self-talk and to embrace imperfection that we discussed earlier.

Go back and have a look at all the mean things that your Inner Critic said about you when you listed your negative self-beliefs 🙅‍♀️ 🧘‍♀️ .

Stop ‘giving yourself permission’ to beat yourself up 🦋 – it’s not true, it’s not kind, and it doesn’t help.

Kindness means accepting yourself as you are 😌 🌹.

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The human mind is constantly thinking – that’s what it’s meant to do. But most of us spend a great deal of time focusing on things in our past or worrying about the future. We allow our mind to constantly bring up all the times we’ve made mistakes or “failed” and then wallow in those memories, weaving stories around them.

The same goes for worrying about the future and sometime worry about things that are not likely to happen. But they believe they will happen because they don’t trust themselves …

Conditioning over the years may contribute to have negative mindset programmed into your brain, but it hasn’t been hard-wired. You can reprogram it take back the control so it’s working for you, not against you. 

A key tool for reprogramming is the part of your brain is the Reticular Activating System (RAS). RAS is a bundle of neurons located deep in the brain. It acts as a filter or portal, very like an email app that sorts the incoming stimuli and prioritizes what’s important. And just as you c…